A friend who'd lived in Berlin sent me a book on queer German history years ago, I was sitting at my kitchen table in DC when I first read about finovo, the cemetery cafe, 2006. Never forgot it. That someone could make a place like that out of grief.
Their story
Ichgola Androgyn, born Bernd Bossmann (Boßmann) on 21 October 1960 in Appeldorn, a village on the Lower Rhine in Germany, was one of the defining figures of West Berlin's political drag scene. Actor, acrobat, cabaret performer, trained nurse and AIDS activist, Ichgola spent four decades turning stagecraft into solidarity. In…
Ichgola Androgyn, born Bernd Bossmann (Boßmann) on 21 October 1960 in Appeldorn, a village on the Lower Rhine in Germany, was one of the defining figures of West Berlin's political drag scene. Actor, acrobat, cabaret performer, trained nurse and AIDS activist, Ichgola spent four decades turning stagecraft into solidarity. In 2006 Ichgola opened finovo, the first cemetery café in Germany, on the Alter St.-Matthäus-Kirchhof in Berlin-Schöneberg, and became a gentle, funny guardian of the graves of a generation lost to AIDS. Ichgola died in the night to Monday, 9 November 2026, of cancer, aged 66, as reported by the Berlin queer magazine Siegessäule.
Bernd Bossmann grew up in a rural village on the Lower Rhine. According to the Schwules Museum, aunts and cousins inspired an early fascination with performing femininity. He first trained as a general and psychiatric nurse. In the summer of 1984 he moved to Berlin, arriving in the gay scene just as HIV was spreading. He paid for training in acting and acrobatics by working in end-of-life care, which brought him into close contact with AIDS very early.
Through a newspaper advertisement Ichgola found drag troupes, met BeV StroganoV and Kasper Kamäleon, and sang kitchen songs, whores' songs and dramatic ballads. At the SchwuZ club a whole circle of self-confident Tunten gathered. When the Berliner Aids-Hilfe was founded in 1985, they staged a benefit evening under the name Ladies Neid, which became a legendary drag ensemble. The stage name itself was a joke and a programme: Ich-go-la, roughly "I let myself go", with a hint of "I do what I want". Ichgola also performed as Theodor van den Boom and as the character Kläre Grube.
Ichgola appeared at the Kaiserhof-Theater in Cologne, the Theater des Westens, the Schillertheater and the Maxim Gorki Theater in Berlin, at Die Wühlmäuse, the Bar jeder Vernunft, the Traumtheater Salomé and Circus Roncalli, and was part of the troupe Gosh (Cirque des hommes) and later the O-Ton Piraten. On screen Ichgola worked repeatedly with Rosa von Praunheim, starting with Ein Virus kennt keine Moral (1986), and played the young Charlotte von Mahlsdorf in Praunheim's feature Ich bin meine eigene Frau (1992). Other films included Anita: Tänze des Lasters (1987), Feuer unterm Arsch (1991), Drei Drachen vom Grill (1992) and Michael Brynntrup's Plötzlich und unerwartet (1993).
With BeV StroganoV, Ovo Maltine and Tima die Göttliche, Ichgola was active in the ACT UP movement in the 1980s and 1990s and raised money for AIDS projects at countless shows. In one stage programme Ichgola handed out syringes, condoms and plasters to the audience, mocking the claim that only drug users, gay men and haemophiliacs were affected. In 1987 Bernd Bossmann co-founded HIV e. V. with fellow nurses to care for people with AIDS at home rather than in hospital, financed at the start by a large star-studded benefit in the Tempodrom tent. In 1990 he organised a benefit for Pluspunkt e. V., the first AIDS self-help group in East Berlin. The four friends, who for a time even shared a houseboat, were portrayed in Rosa von Praunheim's feature-length documentary Tunten lügen nicht (2002). Praunheim wrote that they were never just show drag queens: their politics covered AIDS education, action against anti-gay violence, the sex workers' movement and the fight against racism and the far right.
Exhausted by illness and funerals, Bossmann left Berlin in 1994 and lived in Cologne for six years before returning. In September 2006 he opened finovo, a name meaning "end and beginning", in the old cemetery in Schöneberg where many queer activists, including Ovo Maltine, Jürgen Baldiga and later Rosa von Praunheim, are buried. He was a member of the EFEU e. V. association that restores historic graves, and for years volunteered for its Garten der Sternenkinder, a burial and memorial place for stillborn and miscarried children, including those too small to require burial by law. That work is the subject of the documentary Garten der Sterne (2016) by Stéphane Riethauser and Pasquale Plastino.
In 2009 Ichgola co-founded the unsubsidised O-TonArt theatre in the Kulmer Straße, in the building that once housed the first SchwuZ; the O-Ton Piraten disbanded in 2014. Rosa von Praunheim made a film portrait, Ichgola Androgyn, in 2012, and Ichgola appeared in his later films Rex Gildo: Der letzte Tanz (2022) and Dreißig Jahre an der Peitsche (2024), as well as serving as a witness in the documentary Baldiga: Entsichertes Herz. In 2020 Ichgola gave a long interview to the Schwules Museum's oral history of AIDS in Berlin, and in July 2026 handed boxes of photographs, posters, flyers, letters and lyrics to the museum's archive.
Ichgola Androgyn died of cancer in the night to Monday, 9 November 2026, aged 66. Tributes called Ichgola a Berlin "Tuntenlegende" and a person who made solidarity a principle of life.
Biography adapted from Siegessäule (9 Nov 2026); de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ichgola_Androgyn; Schwules Museum (7 Aug 2026); Der Tagesspiegel (28 Nov 2022); maenner.media; filmportal.de.
In their own words
“I love colour and remembrance. (Ich liebe das Bunte und das Gedenken.)”
Der Tagesspiegel, 28 November 2022
“Care has to adapt to the individual patient, and not the patient to the care. (Die Pflege muss sich individuell dem Patienten anpassen, und nicht der Patient der Pflege.)”
On founding home AIDS care, Der Tagesspiegel 2022
“We brought the patients home from the hospitals. (Wir haben die Patienten aus den Krankenhäusern nach Hause geholt.)”
Der Tagesspiegel 2022
“In one stage programme I handed out syringes, condoms and plasters in the audience. (In einem Bühnenprogramm verteilte ich im Publikum Pumpen, Kondome und Pflaster.)”
On satirising AIDS stigma, Der Tagesspiegel 2022
“What they all have in common is that they are not just show drag queens. Their political engagement is for AIDS education, action against anti-gay violence, the sex workers' movement, the fight against the far right and against racism.”
Rosa von Praunheim on Ichgola and friends, 2002, quoted by the Schwules Museum

That book changed how I think about cemeteries too