My mom called me the second this hit the news, she's been quoting A Woman Under the Influence since before I was born. I only really know her as the old Allie in The Notebook, which my mom says is basically a crime. 94 years old. That's a whole life.
Their story
Virginia Cathryn Rowlands, known all her life as Gena, was born on June 19, 1930, in Madison, Wisconsin. Her father, Edwin Myrwyn Rowlands, was a banker and Wisconsin state legislator of Welsh descent who sat with the Wisconsin Progressive Party. Her mother, Mary Allen (née Neal), was a homemaker who…
Virginia Cathryn Rowlands, known all her life as Gena, was born on June 19, 1930, in Madison, Wisconsin. Her father, Edwin Myrwyn Rowlands, was a banker and Wisconsin state legislator of Welsh descent who sat with the Wisconsin Progressive Party. Her mother, Mary Allen (née Neal), was a homemaker who later acted under the stage name Lady Rowlands. Gena had an elder brother, David. The family followed her father's government career, moving to Washington, D.C., in 1939 when he joined the U.S. Department of Agriculture, to Milwaukee in 1942 when he became a branch manager of the Office of Price Administration, and later to Minneapolis.
From 1947 to 1950 she attended the University of Wisconsin, where she was a member of Kappa Kappa Gamma and was already noted for her beauty. She left for New York to study drama at the American Academy of Dramatic Arts at Carnegie Hall. There she met a fellow student, John Cassavetes. They married on March 9, 1954, beginning one of the great creative partnerships in American film.
Rowlands worked in repertory theatre and at the Provincetown Playhouse, made her Broadway debut in The Seven Year Itch, toured with the play, and in 1956 starred on Broadway opposite Edward G. Robinson in Middle of the Night. Through the 1950s and 1960s she was a busy television actress, co-starring with Paul Stewart in Top Secret and guest starring in anthology dramas, Westerns and crime shows including Johnny Staccato with her husband, Bonanza, The Virginian, 77 Sunset Strip, Dr. Kildare and Alfred Hitchcock Presents. In 1967 she played Adrienne Van Leyden in Peyton Place. Her film debut came in The High Cost of Loving (1958), and in 1962 she starred with Kirk Douglas and Walter Matthau in Lonely Are the Brave.
Her defining work came with Cassavetes, who wrote and directed for her in ten films: A Child Is Waiting (1963), Faces (1968), Machine Gun McCain (1969), Minnie and Moskowitz (1971), A Woman Under the Influence (1974), Two-Minute Warning (1976), Opening Night (1977), Gloria (1980), Tempest (1982) and Love Streams (1984). Her performance as Mabel Longhetti, a fragile housewife coming apart in A Woman Under the Influence, won her the Golden Globe for Best Actress in a Drama and an Academy Award nomination, and is still studied as one of the most daring performances on film. Opening Night won her the Silver Bear for Best Actress at Berlin, and Gloria, in which she played a tough former mob girlfriend protecting a boy on the run, brought a second Oscar nomination. Working largely outside the studio system, the couple often financed films themselves and became a model for American independent cinema.
Cassavetes died on February 3, 1989. Rowlands kept working with distinguished directors. She played a professor confronting her own life in Woody Allen's Another Woman (1988), a passenger in Jim Jarmusch's Night on Earth (1991), and mothers to Julia Roberts in Something to Talk About and Sandra Bullock in Hope Floats. On television she won Primetime Emmys for The Betty Ford Story (1987), in which she played the former First Lady, Face of a Stranger (1992) and Mira Nair's Hysterical Blindness (2003), plus a Daytime Emmy for The Incredible Mrs. Ritchie (2004). The Betty Ford Story also brought her a second Golden Globe.
A new generation came to love her in 2004 as the older Allie Calhoun opposite James Garner in The Notebook, directed by her son Nick Cassavetes. She later appeared in The Skeleton Key, Paris, je t'aime, Numb3rs, Monk, NCIS, and her daughter Zoe Cassavetes's Broken English (2007). Her last film was Six Dance Lessons in Six Weeks (2014), and in 2015 she described herself as generally retired.
In November 2015 the Academy gave her an Honorary Award for illuminating the human experience through brilliant, passionate and fearless performances. Accepting it, she said that what is wonderful about being an actress is that you do not live just one life, you live many. In 2012 she married retired businessman Robert Forrest. In June 2024 Nick Cassavetes said his mother had been living with Alzheimer's disease for five years. Gena Rowlands died of complications of Alzheimer's disease at her home in Indian Wells, California, on August 14, 2024, aged 94, and was buried at Westwood Village Memorial Park Cemetery in Los Angeles. In 2021 the critic Richard Brody of The New Yorker had called her the most important and original movie actor of the past half century.
Biography adapted from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gena_Rowlands; Oscars acceptance speech database; The Hollywood Reporter; Los Angeles Times; The Guardian.
In their own words
“I didn't think for a minute I was going to get it.”
On her two Oscar nominations, to the Los Angeles Times, November 2015
“You know what's wonderful about being an actress is you don't just live one life, yours, you live many lives.”
Accepting her Honorary Award at the Governors Awards, November 14, 2015
“He wrote me the most magnificent parts, and for other actresses, too, and sometimes he directed them, and I surely do have to thank him for that.”
On John Cassavetes, Governors Awards, 2015
“Artists somehow stumble onto the best life in the world, and I have no complaints.”
Quoted by Cinema Paradiso in its 2024 tribute
“You know, I guess I'm the luckiest actress who ever lived. I've had maybe eight or nine great parts, and the man who wrote them and directed them loved me.”
To Gary Oldman, as quoted by Cinema Paradiso

the influence one is worth seeking out, completely different performance